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4 Ways To Shift Your Mindset From “I’m Not Good Enough” to “I Am Worthy” | The CognoZen Method

If you want to learn how to shift your mindset from “I’m Not Good Enough” To “I Am Worthy”, keep reading. This article may contain affiliate links. By clicking the links you are supporting this blog, so thanks!

Welcome to Part 4 of the series on How to Shift Your Mindset from “I’m Not Good Enough” To “I Am Worthy”.

Quick recap from our earlier articles:

In Part 1 we talked about your inherent worthiness. There is nothing that you could do, say, or be to be more “worthy” of love, respect, and everything good than you are right now.

And even with all of the mistakes you’ve made (like we ALL have), there is nothing that you could do, say, or be that would permanently make you “unworthy”.

You are worthy and enough exactly as you are simply because you exist. You can redeem yourself from anything. Even when you fail, you are still worthy.

If you haven’t read it yet, I highly suggest you check it out here

In Part 2 we talked about how acknowledging your feelings can help increase your sense of worthiness and transform your relationships, career, and every aspect of your life.

If you haven’t read it yet, give it a read by clicking here.

In Part 3 we talked about your lifelong relationship with your toxic Inner Critic…and how that S.O.B. secretly loves you and wants the best for you.

Sounds nuts, I know. Read it here to learn more.

In this article, we’ll be talking about different tips and tricks you can use to reprogram your mindset from “I’m not good enough” to “I Am Worthy”.

It’s gonna be a good one, so strap in and enjoy!

4 Ways To Shift Your Mindset from “I’m Not Good Enough” to “I Am Worthy”

#1. Reframe the Wording

For example, instead of thinking, “I’m not good at this,” try reframing it to, “What am I learning right now?” 

I’ve found that shifting my focus from my goal to what I’m learning in the present moment makes the journey WAY more enjoyable.

There is a Hindu school of thought called Karma yoga and one of the main principles of Karma yoga is “The Path of Action”.

From my understanding, Karma yogis set intentions and goals like everyone else, but they devote their full attention to the actions they’re taking in the present moment instead of “keeping their (third) eye on the prize”, as most people teach.

They view their work as an act of worship instead of a series of annoying tasks they begrudgingly do to get to their desired outcome.

This was a fascinating concept to me because let’s face it: ADHD can make me want to speed through my tasks to get to the rush of joy that I expect to feel when I reach my goal.

It was a total mental shift for me to view my work as an act of worship, and I took it a step further and decided to view my work as an act of love

Love for myself. Love for the people I’m serving. And when I’m doing “boring” tasks, love for the tools I’m using and the tools that are helping me get the job done. 

For instance, when I’m doing dishes I give thanks for the dishes that hold the food I eat, the soap that keeps the dishes clean and helps me stay healthy, and the water that washes away the filth and restores everything “like new”.

It sounds a bit cheesy, but I can honestly say that it really does make each moment of life feel more magical, peaceful, and thoroughly enjoyable.

It makes the present moment something beautiful that I want to experience instead of putting my hope and faith in some imaginary moment in the future where everything will supposedly be “better”.

So when you feel like you suck at something and start to feel frustrated, try to find joy in the process of learning.

You’ll improve much faster, and you’ll probably have a lot more fun doing it!

#2. Practice the 1-for-3 Method

Whenever you start thinking “I wish” thoughts, follow them up with “I’m grateful” thoughts.

Example: If you think “I wish my body was X” immediately follow it with “But I’m glad my body is XYZ!” Literally list 3 things that you like, wouldn’t change, or want more of about your body.

This is what I call the 1-for-3 Method. (Yes, I just made that name up.)

For every 1 negative thought you think, immediately think 3 positive thoughts to replace it.

You can do this with any topic and any thought.

And if you’re like me and your brain’s negativity bias be biasing like a muhfu…you’ll probably get a LOT of practice every day.

Which means you’ll get plenty of chances to retrain your brain to think positive, loving, uplifting thoughts about yourself until it becomes second nature!

#3. Gamify it, babyyy!

No matter what age you are, everything becomes 10X better when you gamify it!

For example, tell toddlers that the first person to finish cleaning up their area is the winner and watch how fast their tiny feet move! It doesn’t even matter that there’s no prize. Their competitive instinct kicks in and all they want is the delicious taste of victory

The adrenaline rush plus the endorphins from running? Perfect grounds for nonstop giggling. Kids get joy from the activity, and mom gets joy from the clean room.

Issa win-win.

If you’re learning a new skill through repetition, like… 

Learning a dance routine

Knitting a row of a scarf

Trying a new exercise during a workout

Or making the same dish multiple times during a restaurant shift…

Make a game out of naming at least ONE way you’ve improved after every effort, and take a moment to HYPE YOURSELF UP (out loud or in your head)!

Whether you do a happy dance, clap your hands, fist pump, give yourself a hug, or just think the words, “F yeah, I DID IT!!! Imma a boss @$$ b!$h. NO ONE is touching me in THIS area. I’m leveling up. I’M OUTTA THIS WORLD. I CAN DO ANYTHING!!!!”

Whatever gives you that dopamine rush of satisfaction, do that. Every time.

For example, in a dance class you may do the same routine 30+ times in one hour. (Seriously)

After each run, pick one thing you did well and hype yourself up! 

It doesn’t matter how many mistakes you made…you can work toward getting them right next time! Just make sure you celebrate at least ONE thing that you nailed before moving on. 

When you start do this every day, in every area of your life, your confidence will skyrocket.


Because you will be collecting evidence that proves that you ARE capable and AWESOME and that you have every reason to believe in yourself.

Like we learned in Part 3 of this article series, evidence is everything when it comes to accepting or rejecting beliefs. 

Try this today and let me know how it goes!

#4. Get specific

Sometimes all it takes to end a momentary existential crisis is having a plan.


You don’t even need to have a full plan. Your brain feels safer and more secure when you’re at least sure of the next step. Doesn’t even have to be the “right” next step. It just has to be a good one.

Whenever you start to think, “I wish I had XYZ” try asking yourself, “What is ONE thing I can do right now to move me closer to that goal?”…and then do it.

If you can’t stop and do it exactly at that moment, write it down and set a time and date that you will do it, and stick to it.

It’s really that simple.

Reprogramming your mind takes intentionality and consistency, but it IS possible. Give these exercises a try and see how they work out for you!

I believe in you.

Tools To Help You Train Your Brain To Believe You’re Worthy

If you want to train your subconscious to believe that you are worthy, try this follow-along CognoZen video. It’s the perfect way to reset your mind and nervous system.

If you’re looking for a longer sleep affirmation video with guided breathing, you can find it on the CognoZen YouTube channel.

Get instant access to the FREE 3-Day CognoZen Challenge to learn how to reprogram your subconscious mind for wealth, happiness, & success!

& download this FREE mini workbook that I made to go with this article!

“Rewrite & Reframe: Turning Negative Into Positive” Workbook (digital download)

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