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The Affirmation That Helps Me Stay Calm In Every Situation | The CognoZen Method

Keep reading to learn about the one affirmation that helps me stay calm in every situation.

Yesterday I was reading a post written by a guy named Robert.

He shared how he keeps finding himself in situations where he gets upset about the smallest things.

He doesn’t mean to. He certainly doesn’t want to.

And yet he’s found that something as little as reading a negative comment that [a complete stranger] writes under [another complete stranger]’s post can send him into a fit of anger, anxiety, or even deep hurt.

“I don’t know how I got like this, but I know I can’t keep living this way. I’m always stressed out…and mostly about things that have NOTHING to do with me. My hair’s starting to fall out. My body’s always tense and my muscles are aching. I get headaches way more than I used to. My family feels like they have to walk on eggshells around me and I hate that… How can I learn to keep my peace and stay calm in every situation, no matter what’s going on?

I feel for Robert.

I think we’ve all felt a twinge of disgust and gotten defensive when scrolling through a comment section before.

And I KNOW that we’ve all reacted in ways that we aren’t proud of before…and even in ways that weren’t even needed.

It might have felt right in the moment, but in hindsight, we didn’t actually have to go there.

Robert’s story isn’t unique. In fact, it’s more relatable than most of us want to admit.

So what’s the solution?

How Robotic Affirmations Help Me Stay Calm In Any Situation

I heard the term “robotic affirmations” for the first time a little over a month ago, but it’s a habit I intuitively started years ago.

It’s my go-to when I need to center my mind, raise my vibration, or lift my mood, but I can’t stop what I’m doing to sit and meditate.

I use them to redirect my mind from negative thoughts to positive ones. If an intrusive thought pops up unexpectedly, I ignore it and start robotically affirming to train my brain to focus on and expect all that is positive and abundant.

I affirm while I’m doing the dishes, showering, driving, finishing up mundane tasks…

It’s not an obsessive thing. I don’t feel like I HAVE to do them 24/7. There’s no pressure here.

But when my mind is racing and I find it hard to silence my thoughts, robotic affirmations are the perfect way to help me take control of my inner dialogue.

If I can’t “get out of my head”, I at least want to make it a beautiful place to be, ya know.

A woman sitting at her computer, looking stressed, surrounded by post it notes & with a post it on her forehead

I know you’re here for a reason so let’s not beat around the bush anymore.

My go-to affirmation that helps me stay calm and temper my temper in most situations (I’m human, after all) is:

“Don’t react. Don’t have an opinion.”

Most of our emotional responses stem from the thoughts and opinions we have about a situation. And our opinions are usually created by what society, our families and communities taught us growing up, plus our personal desires and dislikes.

I’m a huge lover of Stoic philosophy. And the greatest thing I’ve learned from it is the power of observing instead of reacting.

When Robert sees that nasty comment written by a complete stranger on a photo posted by (usually) another complete stranger, it’s understandable that it upsets him.

It doesn’t feel good to see someone being unkind to another person for no reason, especially when they could’ve just kept scrolling and ignored the post if they hated it that much.

And if the comment is about someone he loves – like a parent, sibling, child, or close friend – he has every right to decide if it’s best to chime in and defend them, or keep scrolling and ignore it.

But whatever action he decides to take, he doesn’t have to do it from an emotionally charged place.

He has the power to create some space between him and his emotions and observe them instead of acting on them.

He can observe his thoughts as the opinions form without getting attached to them as “truths”.

Or he can robotically repeat the affirmation I just gave you and train himself to not form an opinion in the first place. And, if he chooses to react, he can

  • Decide the outcome he wants from the interaction
  • Decide on the healthiest way to engage to get him to the outcome he wants

Sometimes hard conversations need to be had and negative behavior needs to be addressed and handled directly…

but that doesn’t mean you have to feel angry, anxious, or sad while doing it.

Observe and act accordingly, in a way that brings you both peace and results.

That’s my motto for life.

And just to be clear…

This isn’t “emotional bypassing”.

I’m not telling you to ignore your feelings completely, or label them as “good” or “bad”.

I’m just suggesting that you observe everything that comes up for you mentally and emotionally…

and choose not to have an opinion about them either way.

You don’t have to judge your thoughts, your feelings, yourself, or the person/people that are acting in ways that you don’t appreciate.

You simply observe and respond accordingly.

Say what needs to be said…

And do what needs to be done…

In a way that is peaceful and driven by the result you want.

(And if you’re the type of person that actually enjoys fighting…well then…I guess getting mad and caught up in a nasty debate would be the best course of action for you, wouldn’t it? But that’s your business…I won’t judge. >.<)

Why I Personally Like Robotic Affirmations

I know there are diehard Neville Goddard fans that absolutely prickle uuuupppp when they hear the term “robotic affirmations”.

They believe 100% that feeling is the key to all manifestation…

and what sets robotic affirmations apart is the fact that they aren’t driven by emotion.

I love Neville dooowwwnnn…and I also love robotic affirmations.

For me, it’s a mental exercise. Athletes improve by doing the same movements over and over again as perfectly as possible until they’re ingrained in their bodies as muscle memory.

Kobe Bryant played basketball from the ages of 3 to 37. He practiced 6 hours a day, 6 days per week, for 6 months out of the year.

I feel quite confident that, by the time he retired, he never had to think about how to make a shot during a game.

It was likely muscle memory. After years of perfect repetition, the movements felt as natural as breathing to him.

This is how I view robotic affirming.

When you robotically affirm you are intentionally training your brain how you want it to think, act, and react until it becomes second nature.

So while I absolutely agree that feeling is the secret to fast manifestation, I also believe that our feelings are often created by our thoughts.

I hope you found this helpful.

And Robert, if you’re reading this, know that you aren’t alone, your feelings are normal, and it IS possible to break the habit of getting upset.

It just takes practice and extra focus. 😉

Wishing you a lifetime of bliss and success.

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